now people call it social-media. whatever that is, ever since the web-cam feature was invented, the "normal" aspect you wish to emerge in cyber world, seemed to have vanished for good. the normal ethics of conversation would be starting for general stuffs, then moving to personal. in the good old days, when people can only chat, you got no option but to type. nowadays, the shift of easiness has turned people into some pathetic uniformity.
the common playing field of chat now turns into a transit. the place where people exchange mutual "permanent" contact of messenger app. the lousy ones would turn mad/monster/upset if you dont give them your messenger name account. it is as if a woman's obligation to answer to any men's request. it is a micro scale way to say woman can make option. and yes, it includes generating rejection to masculin request.
the annoying domestic conversation is to interrogate you when your status is single over 30 y.o. the other counterparts would conclude you experience a traumatic experience. they would also assume that you have been too picky. they would also pathetically assume that you prefer same sex couple. however, the fact that you just busy with work and study is not making sound. it is unclear as to why woman cannot have career in their own view. it is unclear why woman must accept to solely being domestic worker. that is particularly happening in this country.
the modern life will never defeat the traditional social demand towards women. it is undesirable for woman to have more successfull career. it is woman's obligation to make the man feel comfort of their inability to establish his own success. it is woman's obligation to provide moral support for the man, while she herself is expected to leave her career when the possibility of raising family is knocking on door. so this woman will be the object of other women's gossip talk. and be perceived as useless. so it is not important if the woman can make a living, smart, have a career, independent. it is important if the woman can be a wife with excellent domestic worker ability.
since you are over 30 y.o. the common masculin perception is that you are married. the hard and fast rule of thumb of the indonesian men you meet is to conclude you have a husband. they generally wouldnt ask. therefore, they are so sure to call you ma'am instead of miss, bun(da) instead of mbak.
fyi, since i would prefer for my future children to address me with bunda, it is not pleasing at all to have stranger to address me in such a way.
the important note woman will find in social media is that it is a puddle of mud. puddle of dark mud, that you have to sort very thinly to find people who are civilized enough. civilized in a way they would send the photo of whats inside their pants when they find you're hot and cute at the same time. and yes, this has been happening numerous times.
all we women want is normal conversation, one that allows us to see who you really are, and not the size you got down there. this will continue to be what we want, because it will not happen any sooner. maybe never will.
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